Thursday

By the way, where are you based in?


At the moment, I’m in Bangladesh. More accurately in northern Bangladesh. This land is amazing, there is no doubt about it. People are amazing; the food is amazing, everything is amazing except a few things that I’ll write some day later.

Anyway, like my own country Nepal, I saw that Bangladesh also is an NGO bazaar, which means a million non-governmental organizations working for the people, doing small and big miracles everyday and trying to reach the Millennium Development Goals very soon, and God knows what else more!

So far so good. But the problem begins when you find yourself, an undergraduate toddler, caught up into an NGO net and don’t understand the language they, the NGO people, speak. Can you imagine? It happened with me, and is still happening!

I’m working with one of the oldest and biggest and most reputed NGOs in Bangladesh which employs more than five thousand people and has hundreds of programmes in thousands of villages. My supervisor, research assistant and guides and all those people are nice and cooperative and it’s not difficult to understand what they speak and do and think, but I’m in trouble when I have to sit and talk and eat with other ‘big’ people, Bangladeshi and foreigners, in Rangpur, the NGO’s headquarters.

They never ask you where you are from. Instead, they ask, ‘where are you based in?’ NGOs are not interested in where you were born and attended primary school and had your first crush, but they want to know your present, the very moment what the hell you are doing and where. About a month ago, for the first time, one Toronto-based guy and another London-based lady asked me this question and since then more than a dozen people have asked the same question in the same manner. For the first time, it was kind of difficult to figure out what to answer. I was surrounded by the people who were ‘based in’ big cities like London, California, Toronto and Calcutta, but where I was based in? In fact, I’m based in Järvenpää. That’s the truth, but I don’t know why, I feel kind of shy to say, ‘I’m based in Järvenpää’. I know nobody knows about it, but still... Then can I say I’m based in Finland? No…cause people are mentioning the cities they are based in. I figure out instantly, one can be based in a city, not in a country. Then I think a bit and say, ‘Well, I’m based in Helsinki.’ ‘Oh, interesting!’ they say, I give a smile and my heartbeat rises for a moment.

‘Järvenpää is also a part of greater Helsinki,’ I think and console myself and move forward to the discussion.

Then exactly the opposite happens when you move down to the ground. When I’m in villages talking with ordinary, often very poor and illiterate, people and meeting small kids in schools, I encounter a completely different sets of questions. They are not interested so to say where I’m based in or what I’m studying or what’s the subject area of my dissertation. They start with where is my home. Yes, I like that sort of solid questions. They continue asking, where is my home, how many family members I have, what my parents and siblings do, why I came to Bangladesh, What is good and bad about this country, whether I’m married or not and so on. I don’t need to think twice about these questions, I answer them all in a second and think, ye huyi na baat!

Another problem with NGOs is that they are riddled with abbreviations. It takes ages to fully understand what those abbreviations really stand for. When I interview serious NGO workers, let’s say about their recent work (they call it intervention, by the way) it’s very likely that they would answer me something like this.

“RSRS is implementing the VGEPNB project which is an RBA funded by DCA.”

Can you make a sense out of this? I can’t.

Then you ask for an explanation and finally know the following things.

RSRS: Rangpur Saidpur Rural Service

VGEPNB: Vulnerable Group Empowerment Project in Northern Bangladesh

RBA: Rights based approach

DCA: Danish Church Aid

NGOs you are awesome!

Friday

Meeting Sodiful and Ratna again

On the 1st of November, I again travelled to Panchagarh, the northernmost and very disadvantaged place in Bangladesh, where many people were eagerly waiting me. Youths of Hari-Bhasa union federation were waiting me to begin their community media workshop and guys at Tetulia were excitedly waiting to take me to an amazing (though very tiresome) tour to the Indo-Bangla tea garden, Banglabandha trade point and show me the Nepalese mountains from there.

However, most importantly, there were two kids who were waiting me not excitingly, but rather desperately. Sodiful and Ratna knew that they were going to get help to save their mother, but they didn’t know exactly when the help was coming. Our plan was to handover the money already before one week, but due to delay in bank-transfer and my hectic schedule in another district, we made it possible only on the 2nd of November.

Mr Hasinur told me that instead of going to Phuljan’s home, we were going to a Federation office where a kind of formal programme was organized to handover the money. I personally didn’t like the idea that much, but still I didn’t interfere with the plan they had already made. Hasinur also told me on the way that Phuljan’s case had already been exposed in the local area and people from the Union Federation, schools and NGOs were also about to attend the programme.

All people were waiting us when we reached the place. We asked Phuljan about her recent health condition and talked with the kids too. The federation chairman Saidur Rahman delivered a short speech and conveyed his and his community’s thanks to the money contributors. After that, I handed over the money to Phuljan (total 16186.00Tk). They had also prepared an acknowledgement letter and handed over that to me. We also discussed about the next step they have to take and formed a group that’s going to help Phuljan for her treatment so that the kids don’t need to take stress. The group consists of a retired and renowned local teacher named Saiful Islam, a community health worker Hafizul Islam and a lady volunteer working for the union federation.

Finally we took some photographs and I talked with other participants as well. Before we left, Phuljan cried and asked me to convey her huge thanks to those who have helped her and her family. I assured that I would definitely do that. We told the kids to study properly and not to leave school. But just before we were leaving, to my utter surprise, Sodiful came to shake hands with me and hugged me. This incident nearly made me cry.

Tuesday

Thanks to the BIG hearts!

I sincerely thank all of my friends, my blog readers and all the wonderful and generous people who responded our appeal and contributed for Phuljan’s treatment, ultimately giving a new life to that family and offering new prospect to the two little kids who were striving hard to find a treatment possibility for their ailing mother.

So far we have collected 171 Euros which is already 21 Euros more than the minimum amount needed for her treatment. It is, of course, very good that we have been able to raise little extra amount which will be of immense use for the family. For the sake of transparency, the contributors’ name and the amount donated have been mentioned below:

Silver Lining Creation (Charity fund) - €55.00
RISTO IMPONEN: €30.00
MD MIAH (& friends): €25.00
Veli-Matti Vähäkivijärvi: €25.00
KOKKONEN TIINA: €15.00
SARAJÄRVI ANNE ELISA: €10.00
MR. MANOJ BARTAULA: €6.00
JOHANSSON MARIA: €5.00
Total: €171.00 (Equivalent to 17100 Tk)

As the family doesn’t have any bank account, the money has already been transferred to Mr Hasinur Rahman’s local bank account and it will take upto a week to be deposited into the account. Currently I am doing a research fieldwork in another part of Bangladesh (in Kurigram) which is almost 5 hours drive from the village of that family. However, I am in contact with Mr Hasinur who is working in that particular area. The family has been already informed that they are going to receive financial assistance for Phuljan’s treatment and, reportedly, the news was a very pleasant surprise for them. Consultation with the doctors is going to be start soon.

On the first of November, I am going to visit that family and the money we have raised will be provided to the family on the same day. There will be local representatives, NGO workers and at least one community health worker present during the handover and, afterwards, we are planning that we will form a treatment assistance committee so that the family can receive other support during the treatment process and facilitate post-operation care as well.

I once again thank all of you who provided the money on time and made this charity possible. I understand that raising money is not an easy task, but due to generous people like you it has been possible. One of the donors donated all the money she had in her account just leaving 0.40 cents in there. Some people could not donate money, but gave us solidarity by sending messages and joining the facebook group. Some even went on to say that they burst into tears after reading the story on my blog and informed that they have been praying for the family. All these meant a lot to us.

Please note that we have formally closed donation request for this case now, so, now onwards don’t send any amount without properly contacting us in advance. All bank account information provided earlier has been removed not to make confusion. However, once again BIG THANKS to all of you and I will be available with further updates after November the 1st. Good luck to all of you!

Help Sodifur and Ratna to save their mother!


I’m not a journalist, but sometimes you confront situations where you cannot stay without reporting or letting know others what you have seen and experienced.

Yesterday, in very northern part of Bangladesh, near Indian-Bangladesh border, in an area called Panchagarh, I met a 12 years old girl in a regular microfinance group meeting that microfinance institutions organize to collect loan repayment from their client. The girl was there to represent her mother and, not having any money to pay, she was there to request for a deferment of the payback schedule.

I was surprised by the presence of such a little girl in that meeting of the oldies. Through the help of my translator, I asked her that why she was there instead of her mother. She briefly replied, “She is sick.” The girl did not say anything more. She swabbed her dry leaps and moved away from there. When she was already gone, the other women told us about the family of that girl and the difficulties they are having after their father died nine months ago and, to worst, the only guardian they have left, their mother, is also suffering from cancer.

I explained the situation to the programme manager of that area from the NGO I’m working with. He, Mr. Hasinur, a very compassionate personal, agreed to visit the family with me and have more detailed information of the problem. This morning we took a motorbike and went to visit the family to their home.

In a corner of a village, we reached a little home made of straws. We saw that yesterday’s little girl in front of her house. After cooking some porridge for her ailing mother, she was getting prepared to go to school. Her fourteen years brother Sodiful, had already left home early in the morning, as usual, to work as a laborer somewhere in the city.

Till two years ago, Phuljan Rahman, 35, had a happy family. They had always been poor, but things were getting better as her husband, Abdul, was a laborious man. They had two kids who used to go to school; they owned a house, a little land, a cow and a couple of goats. Their little happy world started crumbling down when Abdul was diagnosed of brain cancer two years ago. They did everything possible to save him. They sold all of their lands, the house, cattle everything. They got help from a few (poor) relatives they had, the neighbors raised fund and she got some loan from microfinance companies. From all those activities they collected almost 150000 Tk (1500 Euros) and all money was spent for Abdul’s unsuccessful treatment.

After her husband’s death, Phuljan herself started working as a laborer, but kids continued to go to school. However, after few months, she herself became sick. When she went to the doctor, she got a reply that she has a cancerous tumor inside her stomach and that should be removed as early as possible. This was, obviously, another big shock to the family.

Phuljan tried her best to get some money for her treatment, but it wasn’t possible. All the assets of the family had been sold for her husband’s treatment and nobody gives her loan because she is not credit-worthy anymore. Neighbors and relatives also turn their head and don’t want to keep contact with her. Government has categorized her as a ‘vulnerable poor’ and all what she gets from the government is a few kgs of wheat grains every month. There isn’t any free medical help available. Fourteen years old Sodiful left his school and started working as a laborer hoping that he will be able to save little by little from his earning and one day will be able to treat her mother. His earning is so low (50-60 cents/day) that his dream is almost impossible to achieve.

Many of Phuljan’s dreams have already been shattered, but still she has one dream left. She wants to survive not for herself, but for her kids’ future. She wants to get cured, start working as a laborer and wants Sodiful back to school again.

After listening to Phuljan’s stories for almost two hours, I didn’t know what to tell and how to respond. I was completely shocked and swayed away by emotions. I have seen poverty, sufferings, hunger, death of a parent and so on, but I had never seen such a situation where after the death of a father, mother is waiting to die and two kids are struggling to meet their ends and there is absolutely no external help available. There are many sad stories in the developing world, but Phuljan’s story is identical to a horrifying chapter of a tragic novel.

Afterwards, we talked about the possible costs that would need for her treatment. She had already consulted a government hospital which was ready to give some discounts because she was categorized as hard-core poor, but anyhow, she needed to deposit 10000 Tk as an operation cost and for medicines and post-operation care, she needs at least 5000 Tk. Altogether what they need is 15000 Tk which is equivalent to 150 Euros only.

We didn’t promise anything to her, but said to her that if any help is available we will let her know. We returned to our guest house. Hasinur was also very sad. He didn’t speak that much. I could see that he is a generous man, but he also can’t do anything. The amount needed is almost equivalent to his two months salary and he has his own family to support.

We talked again about that case. We thought of various local possibilities, but nothing seemed viable. There are NGOs in every street and corner, but what they mostly do is huge seminars and big parties in star hotels. Phuljan has been the client of four microfinance NGOs for more than a decade, but now what she is getting from them is constant reminder notes and messages to ‘repay her loan as soon as possible’.

I had one option with me. The option is my friends- my friends on facebook and my friends from school. I talked to Hasinur that I can at least try once requesting my friends and if they show little generosity we will be able to collect 150 Euros within few days. If my friends skip one McDonald food or drink less beer this weekend or cut their ice-cream intake for a day, it will be possible. And I have belief on my friends that they will try their best to give a mother to already orphaned kids and give a new life to a mother who wants to survive for the future of her kids.

I sincerely request all of my friends and readers of this article to contribute as much as you can and save this family from being collapse. You can donate 1,2,5,10, 20 Euros or as much as you can.

If you have a European or American bank account, in order to minimize transfer cost, you can make a donation either by paypal or by bank transfer. (PLEASE NOTE THAT WE HAVE RAISED THE AMOUNT NEEDED FOR HER TREATMENT SO TO AVOID CONFUSION BANKING INFORMATION HAVE BEEN REMOVED FROM THIS BLOG, IF YOU NEED FURTHER INFORMATION YOU CAN REACH US BY EMAIL OR PHONE MENTIONED BELOW- THANKS FOR YOUR PROMPT RESPONSE AND SUPPORT FOR A HUMANITARIAN CAUSE)


Please write Phuljan’s treatment on reference or message section. And please send a message to me after you make a donation or just before you are making a donation. If you are not in a condition to make a donation at the moment due to some reasons, for instance, you are away from your home and you don’t have banking cards with you, it is also possible that you can make the donation later, but you should confirm the amount you want to donate. We will count you in and arrange money to temporarily substitute your donation.

In Finland, it’s also possible to submit your donation to Mr Sudip Joshi, Diak-Järvenpää, Phone: +358442089009

If you are in Asia pacific or the Middle East, you can send your donation directly to the following account,


Please be sure that the money that you will donate will be spent on the cause which has been mentioned and all the donors will get proper proof that the money they have donated has been delivered to the above mentioned beneficiary (Phuljan) and for her treatment.

For more information contact:

Manoj Bhusal in Bangladesh +8801716266650, email: manoj.bhusal@student.diak.fi or

Mr Hasinur Rahman +8801730328056, hasinur.rdrs@yahoo.com

We hope that you will try your best to prevent a family from being collapse and give a new future to two little kids who are far far from you in a rural Bengali village, but equally love their mom as well all do.

Thank you,

Your friend,

Manoj Bhusal

from Rangpur, Bangladesh

(13 Oct. 2009)

Thursday

Meeting the BIG dreamers!


This week I went to a very remote island village of northern Bangladesh. I have been in villages here in Rangpur and Thakurgaon also, but they are in fact, not that much like a village. They have electricity, access to road, hospital, school etc. However, the Brahmaputra island area (known locally as Char) has many villages which are not only remote from the mainland Bangladesh, but also most disadvantaged and neglected from the so called mainland and the regime in Dhaka.


Government is scarcely present in the region. There are virtually no government services. No schools, no clinic, nothing. And this region is the home for eight hundred thousand people.

Some NGOs are working there and providing services to the people. An integrated development project called Char Development Programme (CLP) is underway and we were visiting the place to get to know about their services and programmes they are running.

Finally, we went to a school run by the local community. There were almost 30-40 students in a class. They were energetic and smart, but were badly hit by poverty and destitution like some other children in South Asia and Africa. They sang song for us, they performed an amazingly good parade and danced as well. We introduced ourselves and in turn they also introduced themselves. While they were introducing, we asked them as to what they wanted to be in the future. Most of them wanted to big engineers, the rest chose doctor, teacher, pilot, army and so on.

I really wish that these dreamers will be able to achieve their dreams. If conditions are favorable, what they are dreaming is not impossible. However, if pace of reform and progress remains like this, most of them, sadly, will end up being rickshaw pullers, laborers,petty farmers or some of them will be swept away by river which runs madly just few meters far from their homes.

It is not only a challenge of Bangladesh, but many countries in the global south will have to think and work seriously to reduce poverty from the region and offer more opportunities to their people.



The visit was kind of reflection of my childhood for me. I was lucky to be relatively well off than those kids, but I also have the same experience of studying in a small room with too many kids with insufficient study materials and infrastructure and so on.

I personally donated some money to the school so that those kids will be able to get some educational materials at least for some time. Briefly speaking, I also told them about some similarities between their life and my childhood and told them to study hard despite all unfavorable conditions they have.


They gave a long applause and said us bye bye. I'm back from that village and preparing for another field work, but those little kids are still running in my mind.

Tuesday

Oh, It’s time to GO again!




Since I was 13, I am in a constant loop of going and coming, departing and arriving. First, I left my primary school at 13. The school was just one-minute walk from my home and my mother was a teacher of Social Studies in that school (by the way, that’s why I’m not so social many times, When your mommy is a teacher, who cares about studies and homework? They are just fun, you know!)

Anyway, I left that school because it was time to go for another higher school where my mom wouldn’t be teaching any social or anti-social studies. That school, of course, was far from my home. It would take almost 45 minutes to reach there and at that time we didn’t have those scary things what many people call buses or taxis or whatever. We had our robust feet and we solely and happily depended on those. Everything was fun. Life was fun.

Ambitions grow and people move. Needs expand and people move. Expectations increase and people have to leave, and I had to leave. I had to leave that sweet village and march towards a small city in another pursuit of happiness.

When you enter a city, things are completely different. It’s not only in Nepal, it’s everywhere. Things in a village and things in a city are always different, and often opposite.

Well, after spending two years in that small and cute city, which looks like a teenage model . had to move to another scary city called Kathmandu. It was the city where my brother was already struggling to become an IT expert and a business jockey. Now he has managed to be both. I’m happy for him.

I had so called ‘very good’ grades in high school so I was naturally supposed to study Natural Sciences and become a successful medical doctor or something similar like that. I remember the day when my brother brought science books for me, I was just intimidated. That night I couldn’t sleep properly and kept wondering how on earth people can read such thick and scary books! Life was no more fun, my friend.

I digested those scary books and finished higher secondary school and then a bachelor’s and some other small courses. I wasn’t static in Kathmandu too. I was moving from one faculty to another and jumping from one subject to another like the monkey left alone in a dense forest.

Let’s not go into detail now. At the moment I’m in a country called Finland and doing a degree in Social Services and what they also call community development stuff. My experience in a foreign country has simply been enriching. I have gathered a huge pile of experiences- good and bad, serious and funny, depressing and liberating. Experiences of doing odd jobs and going to bed at 3:00 am in the morning, experience of falling in and out of love, and the amazing experience of meeting wonderful and friendly people who make my day.

I have started packing for my trip. I’m a traveler so there won’t be much stuff to carry. I have bought some nice Finnish chocolates as gifts, that’s all. In fact, I am seriously thinking about my research work and its possible implications. I know that these three months will be really important for my entire career and this time period will determine my future direction.

Leaving for Bangladesh is certainly exciting, but leaving Finland and all these wonderful faces is not so easy at all. But again I think about my octogenarian granny and the talk that we had last December when I was in Nepal. She wanted me to be a stable boy. Her definition of stability is rather peculiar. My granny thinks that I should be in Nepal, find work as a clerk or some sort of officer or help my brother in his thriving business, get married to a nice girl and have some kids. And this idea is, of course, amusing, but not realistic at all to me.

Final words that I told to my granny were,

“Grandma, nothing on this universe is stable, how I can be one?”

She didn’t understand my question, instead just smiled and said, “ Oh, who can win talking with you?.”

Yes, granny, nothing is stable and I prefer to be an utterly unstable, unsteady, deviant wanderer.


(I received some comments from my readers that it is good if I don’t post others’ stuff, but write about my personal experiences. That’s a nice suggestion and I’m going to do that now onwards. I will have further updates from Bangladesh and my research and so on.)

Friday

An amazing love affair..

Well, what is the thing that people of all ages like? It is love. No doubt. People are waiting their beloved one even when they are on pyre. And when I find it difficult to post something on my blog, I post something about love. I have posted love quotes before, but today I am posting a story. A love story. I read this story almost two years ago in a book by Osho. When I was reading this, I simply felt that it was a very good story. Worth reading,and realistic. Enjoy!

I have heard that there was once an ancient and majestic tree, with branches spreading out towards the sky. When it was in a flowering mood, butterflies of all shapes, colors and sizes danced around it. When it grew blossoms and bore fruit, birds from far lands came and sang in it. The branches, like outstretched hands, blessed all who came and sat in their shade. A small boy used to come and play under it, and the big tree developed an affection for the small boy.

Love between big and small is possible, if the big is not aware that it is big. The tree did not know
it was big; only man has that kind of knowledge. The big always has the ego as its prime concern,
but for love, nobody is big or small.

Love embraces whomsoever comes near. So the tree developed a love for this small boy who used to come to play near it. Its branches were high, but it bent and bowed them down so that he might pluck its flowers and pick its fruit.

Love is ever ready to bow; the ego is never ready to bend. If you approach the ego, its branches will stretch upwards even more; it will stiffen so you cannot reach it.

The playful child came, and the tree bowed its branches. The tree was very pleased when the child plucked some flowers; its entire being was filled with the joy of love. Love is always happy when it can give something; the ego is always happy when it can take.

The boy grew. Sometimes he slept on the tree’s lap, sometimes he ate its fruit, and sometimes he wore a crown of the tree’s flowers and acted like a jungle king. One becomes like a king when the flowers of love are there, but one becomes poor and miserable when the thorns of the ego are present. To see the boy wearing a crown of flowers and dancing about filled the tree with joy. It nodded in love; it sang in the breeze. The boy grew even more. He began to climb the tree to swing on its branches. The tree felt very happy when the boy rested on its branches.

Love is happy when it gives comfort to someone; the ego is only happy when it gives discomfort.

With the passage of time the burden of other duties came to the boy. Ambition grew; he had exams to pass; he had friends to chat with and to wander about with, so he did not come often. But the tree waited anxiously for him to come. It called from its soul, ”Come. Come. I am waiting for you.” Love waits day and night. And the tree waited. The tree felt sad when the boy did not come. Love is sad when it cannot share; love is sad when it cannot give. Love is grateful when it can share. When it can surrender, totally, love is the happiest.

As he grew, the boy came less and less to the tree. The man who becomes big, whose ambitions
grow, finds less and less time for love. The boy was now engrossed in worldly affairs.

One day, while he was passing by, the tree said to him, ”I wait for you but you do not come. I expect you daily.”

The boy said, ”What do you have? Why should I come to you? Have you any money? I am looking for money.” The ego is always motivated. Only if there is some purpose to be served will the ego come. But love is motiveless. Love is its own reward.

The startled tree said, ”You will come only if I give something?” That which withholds is not love. The ego amasses, but love gives unconditionally. ”We don’t have that sickness, and we are joyful,”the tree said. ”Flowers bloom on us. Many fruits grow on us. We give soothing shade. We dance in the breeze, and sing songs. Innocent birds hop on our branches and chirp even though we don’t have any money. The day we get involved with money, we will have to go to the temples like you weak men do, to learn how to obtain peace, to learn how to find love. No, we do not have any need for money.”

The boy said, ”Then why should I come to you? I will go where there is money. I need money.”

The ego asks for money because it needs power.

The tree thought for a while and said, ”Don’t go anywhere else, my dear. Pick my fruit and sell it.
You will get money that way.” The boy brightened immediately. He climbed up and picked all the tree’s fruit; even the unripe ones were shaken down. The tree felt happy, even though some twigs and branches were broken, even though some of its leaves had fallen to the ground. Getting broken also makes love happy, but even after getting, the ego is not happy. The ego always desires more. The tree didn’t notice that the boy hadn’t even once looked back to thank him. It had had its thanks when the boy accepted the offer to pick and sell its fruit.

The boy did not come back for a long time. Now he had money and he was busy making more money from that money. He had forgotten all about the tree. Years passed. The tree was sad. It yearned for the boy’s return – like a mother whose breasts are filled with milk but whose son is lost. Her whole being craves for her son; she searches madly for her son so he can come to lighten her. Such was the inner cry of that tree. Its entire being was in agony.

After many years, now an adult, the boy came to the tree.

The tree said, ”Come, my boy. Come embrace me.”
The man said, ”Stop that sentimentality. That was a childhood thing. I am not a child any more.”

The ego sees love as madness, as a childish fantasy.

But the tree invited him: ”Come, swing on my branches. Come dance. Come play with me.”
The man said, ”Stop all this useless talk! I need to build a house. Can you give me a house?”
The tree exclaimed: 'A house! I am without a house.'

Only men live in houses. Nobody else lives in a house but man. And do you notice his condition after his confinement among four walls? The bigger his buildings, the smaller man becomes. ”We do not stay in houses, but you can cut and take away my branches – and then you may be able to build a house.”

Without wasting any time, the man brought an axe and severed all the branches of the tree. Now
the tree was just a bare trunk. But love cares not for such things – even if its limbs are severed for the loved one. Love is giving; love is ever ready to give.

The man didn’t even bother to thank the tree. He built his house. And the days flew into years.

The trunk waited and waited. It wanted to call for him, but it had neither branches nor leaves to give it strength. The wind blew by, but it couldn’t even manage to give the wind a message. And still its soul resounded with one prayer only: ”Come. Come, my dear. Come.” But nothing happened.

Time passed and the man had now become old. Once he was passing by and he came and stood by the tree.

The tree asked, ”What else can I do for you? You have come after a very, very long time.”
The old man said, ”What else can you do for me? I want to go to distant lands to earn more money. I need a boat, to travel.”

Cheerfully, the tree said, ”But that’s no problem, my love. Cut my trunk, and make a boat from it. I would be so very happy if I could help you go to faraway lands to earn money. But, please remember, I will always be awaiting your return.”

The man brought a saw, cut down the trunk, made a boat and sailed away.

Now the tree is a small stump. And it waits for its loved one to return. It waits and it waits and it waits. The man will never return; the ego only goes where there is something to gain and now the tree has nothing, absolutely nothing to offer. The ego does not go where there is nothing to gain.

The ego is an eternal beggar, in a continuous state of demand, and love is charity. Love is a king, an emperor! Is there any greater king than love? I was resting near that stump one night. It whispered to me, ”That friend of mine has not come back yet. I am very worried in case he might have drowned, or in case he might be lost. He may be lost in one of those faraway countries. He might not even be alive any more. How I wish for news of him! As I near the end of my life, I would be satisfied with some news of him at least. Then I could die happily. But he would not come even if I could call him. I have nothing left to give and he only understands the language of taking.”

The ego only understands the language of taking; the language of giving is love.

I cannot say anything more than that. Moreover, there is nothing more to be said than this: if life can become like that tree, spreading its branches far and wide so that one and all can take shelter in its shade, then we will understand what love is. There are no scriptures, no charts, no dictionaries for love. There is no set of principles for love.

I wondered what I could say about love! Love is so difficult to describe. Love is just there. You could probably see it in my eyes if you came up and looked into them. I wonder if you can feel it as my arms spread in an embrace.

Love.

 

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